“I used to have functioning brain cells, but I traded them in for children!”
Haha.. that’s a humorous one! There really is no one way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one!
Here I share with you 5 amazing ways to rock it in your motherhood journey. Remember, at the end of the day, the relation you have with yourself is EVERYTHING as it sets the tone for all other relationships in your life.
So, the first step I ask you today is to be KIND to yourself and answer the questions to your most honest ability. Now read on –
1. THE RIGHT ATTITUDE – It’s all a phase! The toughest times come and go and they are just phases of life that change and come to an end. I am currently in a phase where I have a teenager at home and a younger one at 9 fighting for her identity! And it does not help that they are both not the same gender! There was school drop offs and pickups earlier and now its homeschooling between coaching clients and the constant yelling, “Mooom..!” I would rather be doing just about anything else than playing referee most of my day but I’m totally rocking it because I’ve decided to have a good attitude about it… it’s just a phase. This is not going to last forever so I might as well have a good attitude about it.. I can do this! The same goes with nursing and potty training and temper tantrums. They are all phases. They all end – I promise. Teen hormonal fluctuations come to an end. Sibling bickering stops. The sooner you understand that each parenting hardship is a phase the sooner you will approach each one with a confidence that knows you can do anything for one phase at a time. Is there another underlying reason you don’t feel confident? Ask yourself now..
2. DROP THE ANXIETY – Stop stressing about what you didn’t get done yesterday or feeling anxious about what you need to do tomorrow. Stress and anxiety are processes of imagination and if your beautiful mind is capable of imagining a negative thought, it is certainly capable of imagining a POSITIVE one! Rocking it does not mean having it all together and being perfect (Oh, did I forget to say that?!). No, it means being confident in your ability to be a good mom. And you have that amazing ability! Are you able to deal with anxiety or is it coming in the way of your functioning? Ask yourself now..
3. DEAL WITH THE STUFF FROM YOUR PAST – If you made mistakes in the past and you are worried that they may have a long-term effect on your child (like feeling like you didn’t spend enough time with them at some point, or you were especially critical and did not use the right words), instead of continuing to worry about how that affected your child, talk to them about it. You may find that they don’t feel that way at all or it may be an opportunity for you to make it right, ask for forgiveness and learn to meet their needs. Are you projecting your own fears and emotions on to your kids? Ask yourself now..
4. PRACTICE A ROUTINE – There is so much research out there showing how much practicing a positive routine can have an effect on your physiological and emotional health. Find ways to write a gratitude journal. It’s a beautiful way to start your day by counting your blessings and it has a different effect when you journal it rather than just thinking about it. Have an exercise routine, even 30 mins a day, preferably in the morning hours can set the tone of the day and uplift your mood. Practice breathing.. proper oxygen sent to the brain can immediately bring a sense of reason back into your mind, allowing you to feel confident. Laugh when you can, its therapeutic.. meet up with a friend for some ‘girl time’.. find time to do what makes you happy.. What is your go to routine.. do you have one? Ask yourself now..
5. REACH OUT – It’s ok to feel what you do.. we all want to be the best parents we can be for our children, but there is often conflicting advice on how to raise a child who is confident, kind and successful. We also carry our own conflicts, unresolved emotions and limiting beliefs into the parenthood journey and unknowingly create a lasting impression on our kids with our baggage. This is where a coach can help. Thanks to the coach, you will get a series of tools you can use to be healthy in body and mind first and thereby raise healthy and emotionally healthy kids. You will be able to recognize your own emotions and the emotions of your kids and work on them. You have to be the change you want to see in your family! Are you ready for the change? Ask yourself now..
As much as I wish that our past didn’t matter, it only shaped us into the people that we are today.. and as much as I support that people should sometimes just start fresh regardless of what has happened to them in the past, I also believe that ignoring problems is a bad idea in general! They grow and come back with a vengeance. I believe in resolving things at their root cause, as the most meaningful, most gratifying way to go about changing our results. Reach out when you’re ready!